
This weekend even in a place of happiness, there has been an undercurrent of heartbreak in me, and I wonder who else is hiding some loss? I truly wish I had a magic pill for heartbreak, but I don't. I have some ideas and share those with you when they work, but maybe you guys have some advice that has worked for you that you can share in the comments.
I have written about focusing on your own life, finding your true fulfilling purpose, being still and listening to what God has to say to your spirit, and all the remedies for loneliness. But, there is a step further to healing from heartbreak. Even when you are no longer lonely, even when you are living in your purpose, heartbreak can linger and color your life. Or un-color it. Have you ever noticed that when you are even a little sad everything looks subdued? My favorite ways to de-sad myself are music, color, cleaning, sunlight, and taking care of myself in some way. Maybe dinner with friends, taking a long walk at the track, or stopping to get coffee will break the dreary spells when they intrude?
After all the stages of loss, (which will include anger at some point), you will get to a place where you need to start moving forward, saying "yes" more. I got stuck in the "but I don't understand" stage. I don't understand how someone who loves me would do these things. I don't understand that if someone loves me, they wouldn't fight for me." Let it go. They probably don't know either. The only way out is to forgive and stop needing answers. Whatever happened, if it has been talked out and there has not been a resolution, let it go. Saying that feels awful, but it does not make it less true.
You might have to command your heart and mind to get unstuck. Moving forward comes when you take charge of your heart, forgive, and let go. Not so easy in many scenarios, but forgiveness is necessary to getting back into life. There is a place where you will forgive yourself for moving on from someone; there is a place where you will forgive the other person for not choosing you or being your home anymore.
Home has changed.
Barefoot and writing,
Kim
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