For someone who talks about confidence, liking ourselves, and being our best selves everyday, I sure can mess things up sometimes. In fact, every lesson I write about has a basis in first hand experience in some way. I have screwed up...a lot, and just like everyone else, I struggle with self esteem and self image, and want to be a better person. I appreciate that I have a forum to work through issues (or I would spend time in therapy instead.)
Sometimes I say things that I wish I hadn't, or occasionally, I get impatient and do the bull in the china shop thing. It's rare, but if I am super tired, pushed beyond what I can handle (or had that second glass of wine), and someone crosses that big line with me, I might just let it rip. It's so rare that it freaks people out, because normally I am patient. I do apologize if I am at fault, forgive if they are, but then I have to let it go.The power of a prayer of forgiveness is the letting go, and refocusing our attention on something besides ourselves and the wrongs in our lives.
Life Lesson 96: Quit dragging around that anchor
Turn your attention to the good stuff, refocus
In contrast, insecure folks spend a lot of time thinking about how to make others like them, how to get attention, how they look to others, how to impress or be included, or the depression side of it-HOW THEY HAVE FAILED, how people have failed them. This is attention turned inward, and failure focus leads to depression, defensive behavior, and health issues.
A bad self image or being insecure is self focused, a lack of self worth, eyes turned inward.
A bad self image is the opposite of true humility that sees the worth and dignity of all people (including yourself) and that is outward focused.
You are not a failure. You failed. Say I am sorry. Move on. If someone failed you, forgive them. They are human like you. Everyone makes mistakes. (I know, I don't know what they did, or what you did, but it is weighing you down like an anchor dragging along the bottom of the sea.)
Let it go, turn your attention away from yourself and get to doing someone good for your fellow man (that includes being a happier person). What does it accomplish to dwell there? Who does it help? Better yet, who does it hurt?
How many hours and days have been wasted dwelling on all the things you think you have done wrong, or how you have been wronged?
The people it hurts are the ones you love as well as yourself. Decide to quit being mad at them, mad at you, and LET IT GO. Turn your attention to the good stuff instead, and refocus.
Barefoot and letting go of the anchors,
Kim
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Sometimes I say things that I wish I hadn't, or occasionally, I get impatient and do the bull in the china shop thing. It's rare, but if I am super tired, pushed beyond what I can handle (or had that second glass of wine), and someone crosses that big line with me, I might just let it rip. It's so rare that it freaks people out, because normally I am patient. I do apologize if I am at fault, forgive if they are, but then I have to let it go.The power of a prayer of forgiveness is the letting go, and refocusing our attention on something besides ourselves and the wrongs in our lives.
Life Lesson 96: Quit dragging around that anchor
Turn your attention to the good stuff, refocus
In contrast, insecure folks spend a lot of time thinking about how to make others like them, how to get attention, how they look to others, how to impress or be included, or the depression side of it-HOW THEY HAVE FAILED, how people have failed them. This is attention turned inward, and failure focus leads to depression, defensive behavior, and health issues.
A bad self image or being insecure is self focused, a lack of self worth, eyes turned inward.
A bad self image is the opposite of true humility that sees the worth and dignity of all people (including yourself) and that is outward focused.
You are not a failure. You failed. Say I am sorry. Move on. If someone failed you, forgive them. They are human like you. Everyone makes mistakes. (I know, I don't know what they did, or what you did, but it is weighing you down like an anchor dragging along the bottom of the sea.)
Let it go, turn your attention away from yourself and get to doing someone good for your fellow man (that includes being a happier person). What does it accomplish to dwell there? Who does it help? Better yet, who does it hurt?
How many hours and days have been wasted dwelling on all the things you think you have done wrong, or how you have been wronged?
The people it hurts are the ones you love as well as yourself. Decide to quit being mad at them, mad at you, and LET IT GO. Turn your attention to the good stuff instead, and refocus.
Barefoot and letting go of the anchors,
Kim
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